
I used to attend church but since my wife died I haven't gone much. Part of it is the way some churches make you feel. My wife and I were members of a church before her death, in fact we lived in the church parsonage. The pastor had bought a home and we rented the parsonage, which was next to the church. Even though we lived there, we never felt totally comfortable. A large part of the church was related and we felt like we didn't belong. 6 weeks before her death my wife had had knee surgery and wasn't able to get out. Only one person visited her. A couple of them did ask about her but it went no farther. For the week after her death I had food brought to me, but it quickly went back to where I was basically ignored. I went to church when I could, I worked every other weekend, but after six months I quit attending. I stayed in the parsonage for the next 3 years and only once did anyone inquire how I was and invited me to go back to church.
I am not saying that all churches are like this. I know there are many wonderful ones, but right now I am staying away. Part of it is my working third shift. I work every weekend. If I went to church there would be a possibility that I would nod off during the sermon. That wouldn't be good for anyone. I had a habit of doing that when my wife and I attended. She had a way of keeping me awake. I swore she had stiletto elbows and she kept sharpening them. At least that's what it felt like. I do wish the churches well. I hope the gas cards work, but part of me feels that with this publicity they will get a lot of visitors, but then they won't see them again. I hope I'm wrong.
This blog amazes me. I keep wanting to go in one direction and the blog has other ideas. I had planned by now to do individual entries on my post The New Eight Men Out. I still will be doing this but when other topics crop up I am going with them. I had decided on Monday today's post would have been about Ivan Rodriguez. Now it will be Saturday at the earliest. I am not complaining. I am enjoying doing this. I will be talking more about this tomorrow.

Today's question is Grade 5/World History.
Charles Lindbergh flew the first solo nonstop transatlantic flight from New York to what city?
This was an easy one for me. 48-12.
4 comments:
Paris, France
Jeff, is right, it is Paris.
I too had problems staying awake when I went to church. Not from work, but from partying all weekend long. What I would do to stay awake was show up right before mass started, so there would be now open seating, and I would stand the whole time.
I had very similar experiences in churches - seemed they were all talk and no show. After a 25 year hiatus, I found one that worked for me.
I went through something like your experience after my divorce. I wonder if part of the reason for that was that people sometimes just don't know what to say or do in a situation like that. I'm "between churches" right now myself, but for reasons that are a bit different.
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